Question by Christina: How can I make my boyfriend want sex more often?
My boyfriend and I have been living together for 6 months now and he only wants it about every other day. I want it about 1-2 times a day. I’ve tried everything to get him to want it more, but he keeps telling me, that’s just his thing. He’s not a physical person. I’ve tried dressing up, suprosing him when he comes home with risque outfits, doing whatever, but he keeps saying it has nothing to do with me. Is there anything I haven’t tried yet or am not doing right?
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Answer by BILL M
Let him catch you masturbating. That might wake him up
What do you think? Answer below!
You can’t push yourself onto him. You just need to accept him for who he is. Some people just aren’t as interested in sex as others. Be happy he’s willing to do it every other day.
thats odd.usually the guy is begging for more
touch his private randomly maybe he is not turned on visually,you will def. give him a bon*r if you touch it
You should understand.. When men have an orgasm, they physically CANNOT have sex for many hours, sometimes a whole day. It actually hurts their penis.
Cut him some slack.
be forceful…
i sat (pushed) my boyfriend down on the couch and did what he wouldnt myself
he loved the sight of seeing me touch myself
and now he cant get enough of me…
yeah one thing that can get a guy fired up is not getting it or thinking you may be thinking of getting it some place else…so just start doing things out of your norm..if your always home when he gets home start letting him come home first and wonder why you were late..or go shopping and get all dressed up…put that wonder in his head…buy yourself a toy and just put in the the drawer where he may find it…remember guys are visual so maybe if he can see this instead of hearing what you need he may see it…just a few ideas let me know what you think and if they may work.
too much sex isnt good for a relationship they have no respect for you after awhile and sex is never fun if you just have to ask
try new things you might not know what he is into it might be something strange
stop putting it out there. Start acting like You don’t want it as much, just dress sexy but be coy about it. Put on some short shorts and one of his tee shirts when your cleaning the house, bend over in front of him, but don’t pay the sex any attention, he should want you more when it seems like he can’t. Like if he says something be like, “hunny! I have to finish cleaning up” but be coy and sexy about it. Don’t denie him sex though, that might make him angry, just be a little less out there about it. Good luck!
It won’t get better. So if you want more sex, then get a boyfriend that likes it as much as you do. If you don’t, you will always be deprived….
It’s not you! Some people simply have a higher sex drive than others! He may also simply be tired. He might figure that since he’s living with you that he can have sex anytime, so try not showing that you want to have sex. Try dressing normal and not trying to impress him with sexy outfits. Reverse psychology sometimes works.
Well, there’s many factors that could be affecting his drive like age, stress, environment, self-esteem. Think the best thing to do here is try to make him comfortable and get him talking. Hopefully, he’ll come out with the root of the problem. Good luck.
Umm no………
Whenever you have sex, does he reach his climax? And if not, that’s the reason why he doesn’t enjoy having sex with you. Besides coital sex, do you engage in oral and anal sex? Hopefully there is a wider range of sexual acts which is broad enough to make him interested in having the other kinds of sex with you.
Good luck!
I think if you play a little harder to get, he just might play a little harder! Let him catch you pleasuring yourself at what might seem risque moments and see what that does to get your juices flowing…
just depends on the guy. on average I’ll take sex 3-4 times a day if i can get it that much, some days there is no way I’ll get horny. If I’m annoyed then I definately can’t get in the mood, so don’t annoy him about it. trying to do nything ‘downstairs’ is annoying if her clothes are on is usually annoying especially if she has tight jeans on, so make sure to have easy access. Like someone else said, use force. Also, if you like pain (i.e. arm twisted behind your back and hair pulled) you could have him do that and see if he gets turned on. If your horny noises (dunno how else to put it…) are too high pitched then that might be it. dunno about for other guys but that is more of a turn off for me than a chick that ways a thousand pounds, and i’d never bang a fat chick.
Are you sexy? I know that that is a mean question, but it is a serious factor. if you are overweight thats usually a turn off, light six-packs are sexy. or maybe you don’t eat enough. my fiance` was a nice weight when i met her but now she is like a broomstick around her stomache because she’s tryin to lose her butt, which i think is the sexiest part on her. she doesn’t turn me off in bed or anything, far from it, but if she had a little more substance then i could be turned on a hell of a lot easier.
if he is tired all the time that could be it. i can’t get hard when i’m very tired. you kinda need a good heartbeat to get hard and when you’re tired your heart beats slow and there goes ur boner.
Maybe he jacks off too much? as someone else on here says, it does take time for us to recharge down there. never heard of it taking a day, mine takes half an hour max and usually 10-15 minutes, but hell… maybe he takes too long to recharge and he jacks off when he is recharged? lol.
do you have only a few positions you guys do? switching positions a lot spices things up. humping over and over and over gets pretty boring, i can last forever in missionary position, or at least until i lose my boner because i’m bored out of my scull. i like starting off in normal missionary, then switching over to where her feet are right against my shoulders and doin that for a while, then pushing her feet so that they go over my shoulders and i ca kinda pile on top of her and do it like that, then slip one of her legs down and switch so that she’s on her side with one leg up over her shoulder and the other on the floor (i hate doing it on the bed, too soft), and then from there just have her lay belly down, and from there pull her up into doggy style, and from there just have her bring her body up so she’s just on her knees, and then have her just sit back on me so i can lift her up then pull her down in hump her like that for a while, then put my legs out and have her lay back and do it like that, then have her pull her legs up to her stomache while she’s laying on top of me, and from there scoot into spooning… and keep going and going. If I come close to coming and i dont want to, then i’ll pull out and finger her for a while. i like to do it for a bare minimum of 30 minutes, and i dont last 30 minutes unless i pull out and finger her a couple times. so if you guys are having quick rounds and not many position switches that might be it.
Also, foreplay. Mostly i like to do a lot of foreplay before sex, and it is not counted in those thirty minutes. maybe a half hour of forepay before we get to it. lots of teasing on both sides, and foreplay with her cooperation, I’m not saying me gingering her. that gets really old really fast.
and also, that deal about letting him catch you masturbate may or may not work. it used to be a turn on for me, but it really isnt all that great after she’s done it a few times.
So there’s some ideas, good luck!
she had no interest. He set it up snielaky via a sexy massage to get her into position, and didn’t use lube (apparently out of ignorance rather than malice, but his penetration caused damage and bleeding). He is now weepily remorseful about causing her to bleed, but doesn’t seem to understand much else about why what he did was wrong.Why this is an example of the Rape Culture we swim in is that he felt entitled to put his selfish wants above her clearly stated negative, and that he also felt so entitled to that form of gratification that he didn’t bother to research safe/sane procedures to take care of his partner’s wellbeing during the act. There are some threads full of rather nasty rape apologism regarding this incident at both Jezebel and MetaFilter, claiming that it can’t be rape if they were in the middle of consensual sex play, or that the only thing he did wrong was not to use lube, or that she’d be a bitch to dump him for this little misunderstanding when he’s so vewy sowwy now. That’s the rest of the Rape Culture exemplified by this situation.Her clearly stated No, let alone the fact that she wasn’t given the opportunity to say Yes and certainly did not say Yes, is all supposed to be swept away by he didn’t mean any harm .